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1. 1What Are the 36 Questions to Fall in Love? This game took the world by storm after the New York Times article revealed a simple yet powerful experiment: two strangers answering 36 questions… and possibly falling in love. Originally based on a psychology study by Dr. Arthur Aron, it’s now been used by millions to spark intimacy — whether on first dates or in long-term relationships. Curious about the incredible story behind 36 Questions? Listen to the full story in Insights section of our app or visit 36-questions.com 🔥 How To Play: Take turns both asking and answering every question one by one in order — it’s designed to build intimacy layer by layer. Give yourself a couple of hours and a space with no distractions. 💡 Tip: Be honest. Be curious. Make eye contact! Vulnerability is where connection thrives. 👫 This Game Is Perfect for: Anyone, at any stage of relationship — romantic or platonic. First dates are the most fun though 😉 You can also play with your partner, your friend, even a family member. 🐌 Alternative Way to Play: Use one question a day as a simple, sweet ritual to grow closer over time. ❤️ Did this game create a beautiful story? Please share with us: DM us or tag on Insta @fruit_and_flowers We are so happy you are creating deeper intimacy with us! When you are ready, hit Next > and start playing..1
2. 2Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?5
3. 3Would you like to be famous? In what way?
4. 4Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
5. 5What would constitute a 'perfect' day for you?
6. 6When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
7. 7If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
8. 8Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
9. 9Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
10. 10For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
11. 11If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
12. 12Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
13. 13If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
14. 14If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
15. 15Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?
16. 16What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
17. 17What do you value most in a friendship?
18. 18What is your most treasured memory?
19. 19What is your most terrible memory?
20. 20If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
21. 21What does friendship mean to you?
22. 22What roles do love and affection play in your life?
23. 23Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
24. 24How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?
25. 25How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
26. 26Make three true 'we' statements each. For instance, 'We are both in this room feeling…'
27. 27Complete this sentence: 'I wish I had someone with whom I could share…'
28. 28If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.
29. 29Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.
30. 30Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
31. 31When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
32. 32Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
33. 33What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
34. 34If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?
35. 35Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
36. 36Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
37. 37Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
38. 38Final Step — Four Minutes of Presence ❤️ Set a timer for 4 minutes. Sit comfortably, facing each other. Look softly into each other’s eyes. No talking. No distractions. Just breathe, notice, and let yourselves be seen.4
39. 39We hope this game was fun, deep, and memorable! We would LOVE to hear about your experience so that we get inspired and invent more games that deepen intimacy. DM us in Insta @fruit_and_flowers or snap a picture and tag us – your stories always warm our hearts1